Self Control

Whether it’s at home or in the workplace, almost anyone would agree that a majority of their problems seem to come from the people around them.

From doing things we don’t want them to do to saying things we don’t want them to say, it seems as though a vast majority of the pains and frustrations that we encounter in our everyday lives is the direct fault the people in our lives rather than our own.

We imagine to ourselves “if certain people in my life would just stop upsetting me, perhaps I could say I was happy”.

While this reasoning may appear to work on paper, such an approach will never truly bear fruit in any of lives for the simple fact that like it or not, people will always be free to do whatever they choose to do.

Therefore, rather than attempt to control how other people in our lives think and act, we should instead make a direct effort to control ourselves so that undesirable actions or events come into our lives, we are at our best when we confront them.


One of the greatest adversaries of self-control comes in the form of our emotions.

Our emotions have the wonderous capability to allow us to feel truly connected to the beautiful and joyful experiences we have in our lives

Yet, by the same token, our emotions can cause us to feel completely defeated or detached from the moments in our lives when we can not afford to be.

  A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.

Proverbs 25:28

For every instant that we allow our emotions to compel us to say things we don’t really mean or do something we don’t want to do, we allow our perception of a situation to get the better of us as individuals.

Even though we might truly love and cherish our relationships with our families, our emotions can sometimes cause us to weaken or tarnish it with acts of cruelty and spite.

Even though we might consider ourselves to be honest and upright people, our emotions might compel us to make claims we aren’t sure about or even lie for that sake of unjustly destroying the reputations of the people we don’t like.

Even though we might think of ourselves as strong and dependable individuals, our emotions can blind us from the wisdom we have, distract us from the hardships we’ve overcome, and cause us to believe that our present situations will leave us with nothing but brokenness and defeat.

Though our emotions can be a force for good in our lives, when we lose complete control of our emotions, we become weak.

Therefore, in order to truly possess self-control, we must be able to assume control of our emotions from one situation to the next.


Though controlling one’s own emotions may seem like an almost impossible thing to ask of someone, the task is made both reasonable and practical when we understand that emotional control comes from discipline.

For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.

Hebrews 12:11

The discipline of the mind is the only means of controlling our emotions.

Only through the consistent effort to better ourselves as individuals in thought, word, and action can we effectively deny the absolute control of our emotions over how we think and interact with others.

To take the control of our lives away from our emotions, we must consistently give control of our lives to the truth and righteousness of God alone.

Through the tool of understanding, we must make an attempt to learn and understand the circumstances of a situation before making a judgment rather than act on our own sense of right and wrong.

Through the aid of compassion, we must avoid making assumptions about others and make strides to forgive the wrongs done to us rather than hold on to them and become bitter.

Through the example set forth in the image of Jesus Christ, we must look at ourselves and what we can do to make a situation better rather than attempt to scold and shame others who refuse to do what we believe they should do.

We must do these things not only for the sake of controlling our emotions but also for controlling ourselves as it is only when we have subdued ourselves completely that we can genuinely offer ourselves up to God.

A person can not give away that which we does not control.

With the control of our emotions, we not only come closer to God, we gain authority over who we are.


So live a life in the service of your emotions, not in the chains of it.

Live a life of prosperity from the acquisition of wisdom, not of defeat from foolishness.

Live a life of self-control and experience the peace of the Lord through it.


This is 30 Days of Growth: Day 26

Thanks For Reading!


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